“I swear to god I will lose my mind if I hear the “sex sells” fallacy one more time. Sex does not sell. If sex sold, we would see penises where we see boobs. Naked men would be on everything that naked women are on. Sex isn’t what they’re selling you. They’re selling you an impossible, pornographically fueled misogynistic idea of the perfect woman.””—
“[W]hen you teach adults and children sex-negative messages, sex becomes an undifferentiated mass of “wrong.” If all sex is wrong, then why try to tease out good from bad, pleasurable from painful? When students are taught not to think about sex, they aren’t going to spend any time determining what they do and don’t want, or what they might be interested in. Of course, they’re going to have sex eventually, but when it happens will they be able to communicate at all through the veil of guilt, shame, and self-loathing that sex negativity encourage?”—
Sex-Negative Education and the Spectre of Rape « Sex Positive Activism (via sexisnottheenemy)
We weren’t good tourists. In our room, the scent of sex was thick. I never wanted to take a shower again. My hands , my arms, my face - all smelled of Sarah. We would mess around all day ‘til it hurt. It was hard to tell if she was kissing me our touching me. Every part of her body was as wet as her mouth. Sarah wasn’t sexy the way other people were sexy. Her body wasn’t tight or taut or anything like that. She was funny. The way people falling asleep in buses with their heads continually dropping and then jerking back up was funny. She was human - the most human person I had ever met. And that was sexy. - The Hottest State written/directed by Ethan Hawke (2006)
(Source: perkybottoms)
“I’ve always been such a fan of the European filmmakers and the way they deal with sexuality, which is real people and real bodies and it’s just a part of life, a part of human nature. And I find in this country we’ve kind of de-sexualised sex. We’ve taken it out of the realm of day-to-day function and something that is just implicit in being a human being because we’re so afraid of it.”
- Maria Bello, This Film Is Not Yet Rated
“You have to question a cinematic culture which preaches artistic expression, and yet would support a decision that is clearly a product of a patriarchy-dominant society, which tries to control how women are depicted on screen. The MPAA is okay supporting scenes that portray women in scenarios of sexual torture and violence for entertainment purposes, but they are trying to force us to look away from a scene that shows a woman in a sexual scenario, which is both complicit and complex. It’s misogynistic in nature to try and control a woman’s sexual presentation of self. I consider this an issue that is bigger than this film. … There is something very distorted about this reality that they’ve created, which is that it is OK to torture women on screen. Any kind of violence towards women in a sexual scenario is fine. But give a woman pleasure? No way. Not a chance. That’s pornography.”—
Ryan Gosling, actor and feminist, in a letter protesting the NC-17 rating of Blue Valentine. The rating was based on one consensual sex scene. (via snowstorminjuly)
← Older Entries Page 1 of 5
